Don’t worry, I know my title made you think that I got married, but sadly still haven’t met that goal in my life just yet. Let’s talk marriage! We all have a goal in our life to get married at some point, well at least most people. The first thing we talked about this week was the engagement. We discussed many topics, one topic that stood out to me the most was that during the engagement process we need to start planning our lives together. For example, it is important to discuss with your soon to be spouse money, goals, what they expect from the other, this is the MOST crucial part to make sure you know everything about the person. Take advantage of the time you have together, plan the wedding together, work as a team and include each other. I never realized how important it is to make sure you include your fiancé in the planning of your wedding. This can demonstrate how your marriage can go at times because if you are willing to work together, then you will be more likely to do that in your marriage and form that important bond of unity. During this time of engagement, it is to focus on the person you are marrying, making sure you both feel like you know all you can know to marry someone. I cannot express that enough because a lot of people during this time focus too much on the wedding only, when that shouldn’t be the most important part of it all, you are going to be spending your life with someone so you better focus on them. After you do get married, there are a lot of ideas that we have in our head. An example of this is that our wedding night will be perfect. Your wedding night won’t be perfect, things happen and that is okay. You have your whole life to be with that person. Another thing to note is that during the first month of marriage you will find many challenges. Some challenges may be finding a good schedule with your spouse on when to see each other because you may have conflicting schedules. Another is the intimacy levels could be different among each other, so you need to work that out. Marriage is not super easy, you must work at it every day and a lot of newly married couples do not realize that until it is happening. It is okay for things not to be perfect. Something to consider too is that as time goes on in your marriage you will continuously need to learn and love each other. The most challenging time in a marriage is when the first child is born. When I learned, this I found it so interesting. The reason I found it so interesting was because usually that is an exciting time, but then I did realize how much work is around raising a child. The husband can feel unloved at times because the wife is so busy with the child or the wife could feel as if the husband isn’t doing enough. All in all, it is important to let your child bring you together rather than have you both drift apart. One thing that stood out to me the most in class was the idea that it isn’t MY baby it’s OUR baby. This will help you as new parents understand that you are raising this child together and that it isn’t just one person raising it alone. When parents work together they can learn to build their relationships. So yeah guys if you are readings this, it is important to get up in the middle of the night as much as your wife does to help with the baby! All in all you can have a successful marriage. Focus on the important things such as quality time, dating and getting to know that person, even during your marriage, keep doing those things. Doing these things will lead to a successful marriage. XOXO Bonnie
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