![]() I don’t know about you, but the idea of parenting terrifies me. Now don’t get me wrong, I think/hope that I will be the best parent that I can be, but think about all the responsibility that you need to hold in your hands. This week during class cruised through many concepts that I have heard before and others that have never crossed my mind. Some things that really struck me were what kind of parent I should be. Thoughts of what kind of parent I should be have always drifted through my mind. I have always known I want to be a good parent, but can I really do that? Of course, we all can! So what is the best way to parent and how can I be the best parent? There are many ways to be a good parent, although there are also ways to be a not so good parent. An example of a parent who might be scatter brained is a permissive parent. A permissive parent is the parent you do not want to be, but it is easier to fall into this parenting than not. A permissive parent is someone who gives a child freedom, but they don’t give the child limits. When you give a child too much freedom and no limits it makes the child not have respect for you or themselves. These children will treat you like a doormat and in general will try and parent you, rather than the other way around. Permissive parenting is when you don’t really care. For example, when your child does something wrong and you don’t help the situation at all having thoughts such as, “Maybe I should help my child” then thinking “yeah, maybe”. This is an example of bad parenting because it shows you don’t even want to act and put in the effort to help your child. Do you really want to be that kind of parent? During class permissive parenting made me worried for the people in my life. I have grown up with many people that have parents that let them do whatever they want. Although, having freedom isn’t wrong, these children do not have set boundaries. This is not a good thing because it could have the children feel like their parents don’t care for them. My friends parent was like this. They let her do whatever she wanted and in the end, she just resented her parents and had felt depressed as if her parents weren’t worried about her at all. I don’t want my children to feel like this and I hope you don’t either. So what kind of parenting is good parenting? The best parenting style is Authoritative parenting. This style of parenting is giving children freedom within boundaries. For example, you will let your child go to her friend’s birthday party on a school night as long as she gets all her homework done. This shows the child that school work is important and if she wants to do something she will have to accomplish something else first. This parenting style allows the parent to benefit from parenting just as much as the child because it helps the child connect, grow and feel loved by their parents. It is important to give your children and teens the ability to have these freedoms so they can learn and grow, but also having a good balance. Overall, this parenting style will help you to be a better parent. One thing that I learned about parenting that I think all parents should know is that being polite to your child will help them be polite to you too. When you ask a child with a firm voice in a loving manner to do something, they are more willing to do it. If you just stand there yelling at your child and just expect them to accept you yelling at them, it is more likely for the child to not have respect for you. Imagine this, if your child is yelling at you telling you what to do, you most likely don’t want to be around your child. How would you feel? You would feel unloved. In general parenting can be hard, but it will be worth it. After learning about this topic in my class I learned that parenting doesn’t terrify me all that much. As long as we try to do our best at being parents, we can become successful in our parenting.
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