![]() Wow this week was full of a lot of information during our two class periods, but such crucial information that I would recommend continuing to read more about why your relationship with your spouse is so important to continually build. So what exactly is the biggest connecting units in a marriage? You got it bud, sexual intimacy. Did you know that more people who have sex with multiple people tend to feel more empty in their life? Crazy to think about, right? But not only that, but that leads to thinking about how many college students you know, casually hooking up with many people, do you think they are really happy? I mean if the average junior in college gets one date a year and over four hook ups, it makes you think if they are really happy. That one really hit home for me because I have many friends that feel that exact way, empty. I am not singling out if you have sex with multiple people that you will feel this way, but studies show that that is a consistent pattern. After all we all want that person that just gets us and commits to a relationship. So why is sexual intimacy so important to use in a sacred setting and not like how the world thinks, like it is nothing and can just be thrown around? Let’s be real here, everyone wants to feel loved, especially sexually. But if there is anything I have learned this week is that it is BEST when you are married, fully committed and uniting with your spouse to feel those beautiful emotions that are sacred. Sexual intimacy is so sacred and if we abuse that power then we won’t fully enjoy it later. For example, one thing I learned this week is that the more lovers someone has had the more difficult it is later to spark attraction for others. Imagine you finally getting married and then not even being attracted to your own spouse because you have already done all the sacred this containing sexual intimacy, that’s scary and takes a lot of time to repair to change. A Word on Infidelity I strongly believe that sex should be saved for marriage to grow that level of sexual intimacy. Marriage is so important to most people in the world. Everyone has a desire to share all parts of them with that one person that “completes them” and brings them together as one. Marriage is a beautiful, but today’s world tries to make it as if it doesn’t matter. Infidelity swarms the media acting as if it is the norm, like people usually cheat on their spouses. The sad thing is that it is starting to not even be looked down upon as much anymore, like it is so normal. The thing is that infidelity can damage someone so emotionally and it is NOT OKAY. I repeat INFIDELITY IS NOT OKAY. Okay, I am so glad we got that out of the way, but it really isn’t okay. So how can you prevent situations of infidelity? One thing we talked about in our family relations class was to NEVER be alone with the opposite sex, I don’t care how old or how young, literally this can lead to infidelity. It all starts with sharing how you feel about things then consistently relying on that person that you shared those things with. An example in our class that was shared was when two couples would always run together. One day one the wives got sick while the others husband was busy with work. The other two still wanted to run so they decided to run with the other spouses spouse, later those two ended up having an affair. Even though that was an innocent situation it led to more. So many marriages have ended in infidelity because of those moments where people think, “oh this isn’t a big deal if I do this alone with him my husband will understand.” I cannot say enough, IT IS A BIG DEAL. These are people’s marriages ending because of things that just aren’t that big of a deal. Let me tell you one thing, the worst things can happen if we don’t take as much precaution. All I am saying is infidelity is real. The need for setting boundaries with your spouse of what you will do to prevent infidelity needs to be taken. Be supportive of one another and always be honest. This week was amazing and class! Xoxo Bonnie
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